Why I Choose Real over Ideal

I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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Before I delve into my simplified form of being real to being ideal, here is an excerpt from Chivalry-Now http://www.chivalrynow.net/articles2/real_ideal.htm

As a philosophy, idealism is incomplete. It focuses on what should be, rather than what is. By definition, ideals are goals that are perfect. They constantly remain outside our reach, like fictions we aspire to, for reasons of vanity. Our hearts cry out for them, but no matter how hard we try, we fail at their completion.

We find realism, as a philosophy, just as incomplete. It surrenders to what is, collecting and hoarding treasure troves of knowledge, cleverness and common sense, yet lacks the wisdom and direction that we long for. Realism is static even as if advances, flattering and cajoling the biped hominid with words that leave him empty.

 Idealism points to God, or essence, or virtue as an idea. It grasps for eternal meaning.
 Realism resorts to science, utility, success, acquisition. It mourns out temporal nature with recognition of its finality, and lack of purpose.

Away from being too philosophical, being real to me is life’s simple tool for survival. I am a very ambitious person, with very big dreams for my life; financial, career, parenting, love and relationships, health, I would actually call myself an optimist. But I love the way reality keeps me grounded because life happens and that what’s real.

Reality is our actual; we will fall sick and have to face a doctor however we hate it.Our first job will be the lowest in the pecking order.We fall in love with the wrong persons and get hurt.Your best friend will stab your in the back.The cost of living keeps going up every day.Children you have brought up will disappoint you.People you went out of your way to help will repay you with ingratitude.Elected leaders will not deliver their promises.You will be held up in traffic that one morning you have an important appointment.But like Anthony Liccione asks “Which is more real, when you face reality, or when reality faces you?”I choose facing reality because then I choose life,it is the most real thing we got.

I wrote this article feeling a bit disillusioned,I expected so much imagining an ideal situation,yet I knew what my reality is.Doing a rain check opened my eyes that with all my optimism (big goals and big dreams) I got to be S.M.A.R.T (Specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound); realistic is how I got to play life.

‘’A Meaningful Life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble, being strong and being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we could have a full, happy and contented life.’’ Anonymous